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An Update!


So one of my friends found out my little secret… this blog! …and my natural hair drama since taking my locs down three years ago.  She told me I needed to update the blog.  I mean she knew I was NOT loving it but now she REALLY knows I wasn’t loving it and the endless changes I went through until I decided to loc it up again back in October.

I haven’t updated because honestly there isn’t much to say.  (And it took me a minute to remember which email address I used to start this blog… then I needed to find the password.)  Womp womp.  I really do believe that less is more when it comes to natural hair, and especially with locs.  It’s been…  8 months now I think? and I’m still rocking a bantu knot out, washing every two weeks.  Rinse and repeat.  Alot less scalpy than they were back in November and a little bit longer but not too much (shrinkage is still a bish!).

I don’t use any specific products.  I was super faithful to the locking pomade from Nubian Kinks and a friend of mine picked up a jar for me from their salon, but we haven’t been able to coordinate a meet so I can get it from her.  I ran out of the jars I had and since then I’ve just been using whatever I had in my closet, mostly because I’m being frugal and don’t want to spend alot of money on hair products.  Since running out of the Nubian Kinks pomade I’ve used some leftover stuff from Oyin Handmade, and when I ran out of that, I now use some Taliah Waajid stuff.  I do miss that Nubian Kinks pomade though, I’ma need to meet up with my friend soon so I can get my jar.

Let’s see… what else? I colored my hair over Memorial Day weekend . L’Oreal Sizzling Copper and 40 developer from the local beauty supply.  I like it, getting lots of compliments.  I colored my hair with it a million years ago (seriously I can’t remember when it was.  I’m sure it’s in this blog somewhere) and just wanted to refresh the roots.  It came out really nice.  I actually wish it was lighter.  I like that it’s red copper and not that yucky box red they put in those Dark and Lovely boxes.

Pardon the shiny face, I had been out in the sun all day in a BLACK maxi dress.  Sorry it’s not a better picture.  I’ll see if I can find one but for now this will have to do.

What else?  Ok so every two weeks, I shampoo and condish with the Nourish Spa line from Trader Joe’s. Sometimes I’ll combine the TJ’s condish with some leftover Aubrey Organics White Camelia condish along with olive, castor, jojoba and peppermint oil for deep conditioning under my hair steamer.  Moisturize with Kinky Curly Knot Today and a spray bottle with olive oil, peppermint oil, jojoba oil and water.  Use whatever pomade and/or gel I happen to be using to bantu knot the locs.  Let dry.  Take the bantu knots out.  Go.  Repeat as needed every two weeks.  Sometimes three.  Because I workout and sweat alot, when things start looking Miss Celie, I’ll pull the locs up in a banana clip minus the teeth and rock a little mini loc hawk until it’s time to wash again.

And that’s all.

Hey Dorien!




It’s been… about three weeks now I think, and for the most part things have been going well, so there isn’t much to report.  I’ve been washing weekly mostly because my scalp starts itching and I can’t go any longer than that.  I also work out daily and sweat alot, so a week is about all I can stand before I feel like I need to cleanse my scalp.  I have experienced some dryness which I’m  attributing to a few things; the change in weather and also what I’ve been using to twist my hair.  I’ve been using the Nubian Kinks Locing Pomade which gives fabulous hold, but it unfortunately a bit drying for my hair.  I also think I need a better, sulfate free shampoo.  Currently using Herbal Essences Hello Hydration, and it’s just ok.  So I’m on the hunt for something new/better and a little more natural.

I just washed my hair Friday and to add some moisture to my hair instead of using the Nubian Kinks Locing Pomade, I used my old standby, Hollywood Beauty Olive Oil Creme, (and I can’t believe it’s been a year to the day that I made that post!) and put my twists/locs into individual bantu knots.  I’ve used it in the past for bantu knots and it offered great hold and moisture. Since I’m not really a fan of wearing this style to work, I’ll leave them in tomorrow since I’m off from work and take them out Tuesday morning.  My uncle’s wedding is Saturday, I’m hoping the bantu knot out will last until then.


Last weeks bantu knot out… ( I look so tired in this picture!  Dunno what that’s all about.  But my hair looks good tho!)

This weeks bantu knots.

They actually are less painful than they look.  The smaller ones are easier to sleep on and I didn’t make them tight at all because I knew I’d be leaving them in for a few days.

A bantu knot out  is how I’ve been wearing my hair for the past few weeks.  **shrug** And that’s that.

Okay! I’m reloaded!


I am at work right now with an extra large Dunkin Donuts French Vanilla coffee on my desk, hoping that it will have magical powers revive me.  I’m running on about 4 hours of sleep.

I was here at work yesterday minding my own business looking for youtube videos that had styling options for short locs (although technically I’m so not close to being locked yet, but I can still style up these two strand twists).  I came across this video from tbey82. (You’ll have to watch on youtube). 

I LOVED her parts.  They were exactly the size that I had wanted when I rolled into Nubian Kinks on Saturday.  There was actually a young girl working there with roughly the same size parts and when I asked Luna to make my parts like hers, she didn’t want to.  “You don’t want big locs, you want smaller ones” she kept saying.  I kept telling her “Not too small Luna” and honestly she didn’t make them small…  I just wanted them bigger.

One thing I noticed about tbey82’s parts is that she had three rows in the back of her head before the rows that begin over her ears.  (You can see this at about 2:12 into the video).  Luna gave me four rows back there.  **sigh**  That wasn’t what I wanted.  Also Luna’s parts in my hair were rectangles.  I wanted square parts.  I know that in the end it doesn’t REALLY matter, and I had resigned myself to be okay with Luna’s parts, but when I saw tbey82’s video yesterday something hit me.  So, I went home last night, and spend six and a half hours talking down Luna’s twists and creating my own. I didn’t get to sleep until almost 3am and needed to be up for work by 7.  Honestly I did 100% of my twists over completely.  And I LOVE it.  Except for one or two twists in the middle of my head that are bigger than I’d like them to be, (I’ll fix those tonight) I’m totally happy with my hair and can finally begin this process.  FINALLY.

Yes yes yes.  I went to a salon and paid money for something, then four days later took it down and did my own thing anyway.  But I’m KNOW I’m not the only one who has done that.  Don’t act like you haven’t done it!  And I have no regrets.  Well, ok, I have one… I should have done this sooner. 🙂  I think when Irene wouldn’t let me be great and I tried to start my locs myself, I was expecting these huge full delicious thick twists, and when I twisted up a few rows in the back and saw these scalpy pathetic looking twists I figured I wasn’t doing something right and needed to go to a  salon.  But honestly when I left Nubian Kinks, I still had scalpy pathetic looking twists.  That’s just the way my hair is apparently.  Once I realized that no matter what I did or WHO started my locs, scalpy twists were more than likely going to be the end result, it hit me that I didn’t do anything wrong the first time, and that I COULD start my locs on my own. Plus as the months go by, the twists will puff up as they loc and the scalpiness will disappear.

So lessons learned, all a part of the process.  My legs and feet are tired from standing in the bathroom for hours trying to angle my mirrors correctly to see the back of my head.  My arms are tired from all that twisting.  My body is tired from lack of proper sleep.  But it’s all good.  I’m happy.  Pics to come.

I know what I said, but…


Ok so yesterday I was at work minding my own business, perfectly happy with my decision to start my locs myself with three strand twists (although since my last post I’d decided to go back to two strand twists instead, AND was a little worried about the parting, but decided I was gonna do it anyway), and was just trying to figure out when a good time would be to color my hair before I started my locs, when my cell phone rang.  It was Nedjetti from Nedjetti’s House of Peace, a loctician and natural hair stylist in the NYC area that I’d called maybe two weeks prior, asking about an appointment to start my locs.  When I called and didn’t hear from her in a few days, I didn’t stress it, I just figured she didn’t want the business and I was just gonna continue with my plan.

When I answered the phone she immediately apologized for calling be back at such a late date.  Now usually the Bourgie in me does NOT approve of poor customer service, but she was apologetic and said I was the first person on her call-back list which was nice (even if it may not have been true!).  She asked what I was looking to do, and asked if we were Facebook friends so she could see what my hair looked like in its natural state.  Since my hair’s been in twists for months, the only picture I had of my natural hair was some shots of me in London in 2009.  She quoted a price to me based on my picture, and explained her non refundable deposit policy, which I’d already read about on her website.  We had a very nice conversation and seemed to be on the same wavelength as far as products, and her preferred starter method, as well as some other things, so even though it took her a while to return my call, the conversation we had totally made up for it.  She seemed professional and knowledgeable about natural hair.  I’d also read some reviews of her services on some websites and everyone that went to her had positive things to say, especially about the atmosphere that she provides while you’re at her salon.  I am also friends with her on Facebook and she has many pictures of styles she’s done on natural hair including locs.  They looked fabulous!  I had no problems paying the deposit and made my appointment with her for August 29th at 11:00am.  (I forgot to ask about the color, I’ve just texted her, and am waiting for a call or text back).

So yeah, I know what I SAID about starting my locs myself and whatnot, but with all of this extra time to decide on something and change my mind, then decide on something else and change my mind AGAIN before the 29th, this was bound to happen.  But it’s okay.  I want to make sure I do this right because I know I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again to anyone who asks, I will NEVER EVER EVER EVER take down another set of locs.  So since this is gonna be a permanent thing, I want to be pleased with my foundation.  It’s gonna cost me a pretty penny (you don’t even WANNA know how much, and that’s not even including color, which we haven’t spoken about yet), but I’m okay with spending the money, especially since she seemed very nice over the phone and reviews I’ve read online have all been positive.  And truth be told, I actually don’t mind that you have to put up a deposit before your appointment.  It tells me she expects a certain level of respect from her clients and in turn will offer them the same.  At least I hope so.

It’s getting closer!  I’m so excited, and now even more so because I’m hopefully going to have a pleasant experience with this stylist.  Ten days to go!

ETA:  I heard back from Nedjetti, she’s going to color my hair as long as she thinks its healthy.  I think it is, but then again I haven’t really seen it since December, so I guess I’ll have to wait and see and put that extra money aside just in case she says my hair is okay to color.  More pretty pennies I’m going to spend on my hair but it’ll be worth it.  Wooo hooo!

The fun has returned to my natural hair!


The awesome thing about deciding on a date for my loc journey is that I have a whole month (30 days as of today) to decide on some things.

What method will I use to start my locs?  How thick do I want my locs to be?  What products will I use to shampoo, condition and twist my locs?  Palm rolling or interlocking?  Will I color my hair beforehand?  I do have some answers to these questions, although things may change between now and August 29th.

As of right now I’m going with the comb/finger coil method to start my locs.  In the past I did say that I wanted to begin my locs with two strand twists, and that MAY be a possibility, but aesthetically I have never liked the TST look on me outside of the house.  Meaning that I’d do TST’s to prep for a style but was never comfortable leaving my house like that.  For me, TST’s look better when the hair has a bit of length to it.  Just my own personal opinion.  My hair is certainly longer than it was the last time I attempted to do TST’s which is why I say that it MAY be a possibility, but I doubt it.  Plus comb/finger coils are easier for me to do, and quicker.  The comb coil method is also how my first set was started by my loctician which ended up being a great starter method for my hair type.

I did want to use the Fauryn78 method of coils to loc my hair, which is how she loced her hair two different times, but I tried a test coil this morning and wasn’t too happy with how it turned out. I’m only testing this on one little section of hair, literally just took out a yarn twists, wet it, put a little loc pomade on it and tried to coil it up.  It looked…  like a teeny tiny coil, which isn’t really the look I’m going for.

I may try to practice it again and see if I can get it right, but if not I’ll save the style for when my locs are a little more mature.

I want my locs to be thicker than my last set.  I’ve always loved thick luscious locs and figured now is a great opportunity to get them, so I’ll be parting pretty big, using this method. (Start at 1:15).

I’m pretty good at parting my hair since I’ve done pretty much every set of kinky, puffy or yarn twists I’ve had in my hair for the past year and a half.  The bathroom is already rigged up with my mirrors and lighting and everything I will need.  Who knew that what I was doing all that time was just practicing for the big test, starting my own locs.

The reason I chose her method of starting locs is because she has locs that are the thickness that I’d eventually like my locs to be.  We also have similar hair types.  This is a video of her locs about a year later.  (You can FF to 2:39 and mute it cause her music is LOUD!)

Now.  Products.  There was a brief moment when I *thought* I was locking my hair back in March of 2010 when I had my loctician add kinky human hair to my own hair.  For 8 months I went on with that charade and during that time I developed an absolute LOVE for the Nubian Kinks Locing Pomade.  So much so that I bought three jars of the stuff because they tended to run out very quickly on their website.  When they DID have the pomade in stock it took them forever to send it out.  So, since I’m in NYC and they’re in Brooklyn,  I called to have the receptionist put three jars aside for me, and I went to pick them up one evening after work.

It was a short lived loc journey (fortunately) and once I realized it, I took down those “locs”, slapped some kinky twists in my hair, and the Nubian Kinks Loc Pomade took a place in the refrigerator to preserve since I wasn’t using them.  I bought three jars, and only ended up using maybe 3/4 of the first one before the hiatus.  The other two are patiently waiting for me in my fridge, preserved specifically for this new journey.

I haven’t used any of the super expensive Whole Foods type shampoos and conditioners I was using as a loose natural.  I am pretty sure I still have some of them on my Product Junkie shelf in my linen closet, but I’d have to check.  I’ve just been using cheapy Herbal Essences Hello Hydration to wash my kinky twists and yarn twists for the past few months.  I am very very lazy with my hair when it’s all kinky twisted up and thank goodness I have very strong hair that can survive just about anything.  I’ve washed maybe every three weeks or so?  Told you.  Lazy.  When I take the yarn twists out though, I’ll be sure to wash and deep condition my hair with something lush and fabulous and prep my hair very well for what’s to come.

Palm Rolling or Interlocking?  Palm rolling seems to be the way to go for now, and I may try interlocking when my locs are a bit more mature, and because I workout pretty consistently and interlocking, if I can get the hang of it, would be a great way to go since the locs wouldn’t unravel at the root.  I am not sure how I’ll handle my daily workouts with my locs until then, but I’ll make it work.

I’d love to color my hair before I start this set of locs, but I’m not sure if I”ll have time.  Ideally the smart thing to do would be to color my hair the weekend before I start my locs, then leave my hair out of kinky twists that week to give it a rest before I start my locs, but since I’m like 100% allergic to having my loose hair out for longer than a few hours between sets of kinky twists, I’m not sure how I’m going to do that.  I *could* color the same day I loc, but I want to make sure I’ve got all of those chemicals out of my hair since I won’t be able to wash my hair for a few weeks until my locs set. We’ll see what happens. I’ll probably just use one of the Textures and Tones or Dark and Lovely box colors, just to lighten up my hair a little.  No crazy experiments with professional hair color and developer and all of that nonsense.

So that’s where things stand right now.  Of course everything is subject to change.  Can you tell I’m excited?  I’ve been scouring youtube and rereading Lonnice Brittenum Bonner’s book which really helped me a great deal on my first loc journey, before the days of youtube and blogs.  I said earlier that the awesome thing about having a date for my loc journey is that I have a whole month to decide on some things.  The not so awesome thing about having a date for my loc journey is that I wanna loc NOW!  I’m itching to get started!  But I’ll wait because I really am NOT ready now.  This time, these 30 days, will be spent getting my mind and my environment ready for what’s to come.  This is a lifelong decision.  Seriously I am like 100000000% sure that I’ll NEVER take down another set of locs! EVER.  AGAIN.  EVER.  So I want to make sure I get this right, so I never have to do it again.

On a whim yesterday morning, I took down one of my yarn twists, just to see what I’d have to work with when the time came to loc.  Here’s a pic of a mini finger coil.  My hair is 6.5 inches stretched, probably the longest it’s been since I took down my first set of locs at the end of 2009 and got my hair trimmed to get rid of the damaged ends.  It really is a testament to  how leaving your hair alone will really facilitate growth.

How To Take Pictures Of Your Hair


I was checking out some natural hair blogs and came across this post by Nappy Headed Black Girl with tips on how to take pictures of your hair for your blog.

I was cracking up reading her first rule!  I was just commenting to Socialite Dreams on twitter how totally disgusting it is to see youtube “tutorials” where ladies have piles and piles of dirty clothes in a corner of the room while they sit in front of their camera fiddling with their hair or putting on eyeshadow.  I don’t understand how anyone would PURPOSELY put up a video like that for all the WORLD to see their filth.  Once recently I saw a young girl (and not a skinny one at that!) get up from her desk to walk to her closet and revealed that she had on NO PANTS.  The girl walked to her closet in her PANTIES and put that video up on YOUTUBE.  I just… can’t.

Anyway, check out Nappy Headed Black Girl’s post on how to take pictures of your hair. I will admit that it’s quite a challenge for me, and I can always use some tips.

Product Review: Hollywood Beauty Olive Creme


So I was checking out African Export on youtube and saw her video reviewing the Hollywood Beauty Olive Creme.  I’ve been struggling with a serious case of  “I wanna buy SOMETHING!” PJism, so when I passed my local BSS on  Thursday night, I saw the Olive Creme on the shelf and I left the BSS $3.49 broker (more broke?).  I noticed that the Olive Creme didn’t have alcohol, petroleum or mineral oil in it and of course had olive oil in it, my current favorite.

My locs had been feeling a bit dry this week, even though I’d been misting them every few days with my water/EVOO/tea tree oil spray. That could very well have been from the botched color job I attempted last week. They didn’t feel good to the touch at all and probably didn’t look all that great either.  I figured they needed something a little heavier, especially since the temperature had been dropping quite a bit this past week.

I used the Olive Creme to bantu knot my hair on Thursday night since on Friday I was gonna be meeting up with some friends and didn’t want anyone to see my locs looking all dry and lifeless. I dampened my hair with my special spray, added the Olive Creme row by row, took about three locs at a time, twisted them around each other and created the bantu knot. I didn’t pin them, just tucked the ends in.  This is the end result.

Tip:  I usually twist my bantu knots in the direction I would twist my hair after washing…  that way even though bantu knotting isn’t a retwist per se, I’m still controlling the new growth a little bit by twisting the bantu knots in the same direction I’d be re twisting my hair anyway.  Make sense?

I created two flat twists on each side and secured them with locs (just kinda tied locs around themselves to secure the twists) to make the style into a lochawk.  The Olive Creme definitely gave my locs a bit more weight, and I feel like the creme trapped the moisture from my special spray into my locs, sorta like a sealant.  In the past I’d bantu knot my hair at night using the exact same method but with the Taliah Waajid Crinkles and Curls, and my locs were usually about 90% dry before I went to bed and were completely dry by morning.  This time, I took the bantu knots out on Friday morning and I could still feel a bit of dampness in some of my locs.

That being said, the Hollywood Beauty Olive Creme gets a thumbs up from me.  Yes I know it’s not the most natural or organic product in the world, but I remember that I had beautiful, healthy long locs for 8 years and didn’t use anything especially organic or natural on them.  I thought the creme did a very good job of sealing in the moisture my locs needed and didn’t leave them crunchy or heavy from product.  The scent isn’t the best, but it really reminds me of those old hair creams and stuff my mom used to use on my hair back in the day.  It wasn’t awful enough to turn me off and the scent was gone by morning.